DISQUS

djchuang.com: what is emotional maturity?

  • Jerry · 1 year ago
    DJ, I'm wondering if this is associated with emotional intelligence (EQ)?
  • Rachel · 1 year ago
    Love this. Def. helped diagnose some people I've known.....lol ;)
  • djchuang · 1 year ago
    @Jerry, I do think emotional maturity is related to emotional intelligence. The way I think of it is the former is a generic category for how well one can manage behaviors when emotions arise, and the latter is a more quantified approach with measurements to describing how much someone is able to manage his own emotions and sense the emotions of others. But that's all a pure guess, because I haven't read Goleman's book. And, there's certainly a lot more published about emotional intelligence than about emotional maturity per se.
  • Chene · 11 months ago
    Thank you so much for this article. I have been searching for this!!!! Please tell me you have more on this subject!!! I am looking for something to help me 'grow up' to become mature at 35!!!
  • gasweeten · 8 months ago
    The "test" was quite immaturely constructed and developed. I have written and taught on this topic for many years. I have had extensive experience in Asia as well. The "test" had to do with what is called, "Reactivity" versus "Responsive". A Reactive person emotionally reacts with defensiveness or dependence little thought to the rationality of the Reactivity. Being mature requires that we Know our own thoughts and feelings, can name them, share them appropriately and manage them responsively.

    Immature persons React to external events and have little self awareness, self management or self control. (Little Fruit of the Holy Spirit.) Thus, immature persons feel deep shame and loss of face as a result of social, cultural or family issues. Reactive persons allow themselves to be "Conformaed to the world".

    Immature persons are often anxious, worried and easily depressed. The James 5:11 ff, etc. Life experiences and mutual fellowship facilitate maturity. The term in King James for "Perfect" is better translated as "Mature".

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